Are you familiar with the 5 love languages? Perhaps you've heard of them. The five love languages describe five ways that people receive and express love: Words of Affirmations, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Receiving Gifts. It's important to know how you accept love into your life and equally important to know how you best give love. The same can be said for BDSM: knowing the things you like receiving and giving in a scene, our D/s dynamic, and how to best be of service. I have taken the time to write this so that you can get to know Me better, learn how to best serve Me and overall be the most wonderful marvellite you possibly can.
When you go online there's a short test you can take to find out your love language. At the bottom of this blog, I'll have the link for you to take the test if you choose to. I did it and wasn't surprised by the results. My primary love language was receiving gifts with 40%! Following close behind was acts of service at 30%, quality time at 13%, physical touch at 10% and only 7% for words of affirmation. These results are key in learning how you can show Me your devotion and the ways I am most receptive to your adoration of Me.
Receiving Gifts
It's said that people who enjoy receiving gifts as part of their primary love language do not necessarily expect large or expensive presents; it's more the effort and thoughtfulness behind the gift that counts. I wholeheartedly agree that the intent is crucial behind real gift giving and receiving. It is about being thoughtful and selfless! You want to give Me a gift because you thought of Me in the moment and remembered how present and dedicated your Mistress is in our sessions together.
When you take time to pick out a gift specifically for Me, it tells Me you have taken the time and effort to really know Me. Distance doesn't matter in moments of devotion because I've made it easier than ever for you to shower Me with gifts whenever you find yourself able to. From small, cute gifts to astronomically huge sends, know that when I get an email from Wishtender or Throne.Me it will always put a mischievous grin on My face and warm my heart.
Examples of gifts I enjoy receiving most:
Experiences and Financial gifts
Physical gifts
Acts of Service
Acts of service are nice things you do for someone else that make them feel appreciated. Otherwise known as the different things I use you to do for Me that I don't want to do! Sacrificing and serving Me is another great way to please Me. The perfect combination of my love languages would be giving Me a gift while also providing an act of service. Lucky for you there's not a lack of things you can do for Me in servitude. Wanting to become a personal slave of Mine is your goal, W/we both know this to be true. How can you be of use for Me? Ask yourself and dig deep into figuring out your strengths vs weaknesses in what you can offer Me. I have listed out on My slave page all the various slaves I'm currently open to accepting to see if your abilities and My desires align.
Examples of personal slave tasks you can apply for.
Slave Positions. For more information visit the Slave Page
Quality Time
Someone with this love language wants undivided attention. They feel most loved if you are present and focused on them when you are together. When you think about it this is exactly what you are experiencing in a session with Me. For the amount of time given your sole purpose is to do as you're told by Me! Giving Me your full attention. Staying alert to the sound of My voice as it dips into a whisper, forcing you to anticipate My next move. Listening for the next click of My heel, or the whistle of a cane slicing through the air. I enjoy quality time with you on your knees before Me. Feeling you tremble beneath Me, your heart racing with excitement. What better way to spend quality time together than in My domain?
Examples of ways to spend quality time with Me.
Some of the ways to spend quality time.
Online sessions. Quality time does not have to mean in the flesh, as much as that would be preferable. W/we can spend time with each other exchanging text messages, phone calls, and camming sessions. During these times I have your undivided attention and in return you'll receive Mine.
In-person sessions. There's truly no better way to spend time than in the flesh, where I can envelop all of your senses in pleasure and submission to Me.
Shopping sprees. Combining different love languages together only amplifies the D/s bond that is growing between U/us.
Fly Me to you. When you truly can't make you way to San Diego but can't wait to get on your knees again. Prove it! Buy My round trip flights to your city and I'll bring all the fun with Me.
Travel with Me. Reserved for the marvellites that have proven themselves to be the most respectful and perfect subs. If you're wanting to expand My universe by going to far off retreats and searching cities to play in and explore---experience a true FLR with Me.
Physical Touch
A person with physical touch as their love language feels love through physical affection. As this is not My personal top love language I don't require a ton of touch to feel adored. Many would relate Me to having black cat energy. When I want to be touched you will know because I will tell you. And then you will show Me your gratitude of having the opportunity of touching Me through worship.
Examples of physical touch I enjoy.
This list includes some of My interests but they are not limited to only these actions.
On Me: Foot worshiping. Sometimes smothering you as I please.
On you: Ball busting, sounding, OTK spanking, trampling, CBT, impact play, inflicting pain, strap play, caning, wax play, human furniture, nipple torture, paddling, slapping, etc.
Words of Affirmation
Through spoken words, praise, or appreciation you can make someone's day when words of affirmation are their primary love language. Personally, I do appreciate when you tell Me how much you're infatuated with Me. Words are empty promises coming from you, so know that they will never compare to physically showing Me your adoration though gifts, serving Me and booking sessions. That being said, I do love being able to look back at glowing reviews My submissives have written.
Examples for words of affirmation I accept.
Ways that I accept words of affirmation.
When I receive a great review after a session, from a new sub or a returning sub it does make Me feel pride in My craft. This is one of the best ways to shower Me with words of affirmation. It shows the rest of the world that I have you under My complete control and that you trust Me to take you right to the edge of your breaking point time and time again!
When you feel like writing Me a poem or song and sending it along with a gift for Me to unwrap. That'd be one perfect way to demonstrate your love to Me.
During after care, as W/we discuss the scene taking time to go over exactly what you loved most and how it made you feel in the moment. I too, enjoy in reliving a hot scene to relish in it and perfect it.
Lastly, another great way to share your love to Me in words would be to add comments, likes and shares on other sites such as OnlyFans, Sextpanther, Niteflirt, iWantClips, ManyVids, Twitter, and Instagram.
W/we all express and receive love differently. By reading this blog you should have a grasp on which ways I most enjoy receiving your devotion to Me. In order to be the ultimate submissive, you must let go of your own expectations, set them aside and ask yourself: "What have I done today to make Mistress Valerie Marvelle's life better, and is it in the actual ways that she receives adoration"? Anytime you're unsure, read over this blog again and take time to read all the other blogs that give you further insight into My life.
The 5 Love Language Quiz
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