FAQ
"I am new to this and nervous. How do I approach you"?
It can be intimidating stepping into the world of BDSM for the first time. Thank you for trusting Me to guide you through this new adventure. Some of My favorite interests include: submissive training, feminization and full sissy transformations, domestic discipline, corporal punishment, foot domination and foot worship, financial domination, and playing with various types of restraints. For more of My interest visit the sessions page of My website. If any of these things pique your own interest then continue reading My FAQ page, and when you're ready please address Me as Mistress Valerie, Mistress Marvelle, or My favorite... Mistress Valerie Marvelle.
How do I book an in-person session with you?
The only way to book an in person session is by going to the Serve page, filling out the form completely and hitting submit. Booking forms not including all of the required information will be discarded. Be mindful that you will need to be screened and send a deposit in order to meet with Me in the flesh. No exceptions. There are a few ways that I accept the deposit. I may ask you to send the deposit to an email not tied to My name for discretionary purposes.
Why is a deposit required?
I request a deposit to ensure your sincerity that you will keep your appointment and to be added to My calendar. Everyone sends a deposit every time--No exceptions. I receive hundreds of emails per week, by requiring a deposit I'm able to filter out the individuals that are serious vs. those who are not. I've been providing Pro Domme sessions since 2020 after training under Mistress Tara Indiana of The Den of Iniquity. During these past few years I've built a stellar reputation and fabulous lifestyle that I would not risk over a small deposit.
Do I need to send in screening information?
Screening is absolutely required for an in-person session. This can be accomplished via personal phone number and either your linkedin/work website information or a selfie of you holding your ID or DL. Your information will be kept strictly between U/us, I simply need to know who you are before W/we meet in person. Requests sent without screening information will be ignored. Thank you for understanding My need to stay safe.
What happens if I need to cancel?
In the event you must cancel I ask that you notify me ASAP. Please understand I have set time aside for U/us and that My time is precious. Any form of a cancellation will result in a percentage fee of the original session:
25% fee for cancelling up to a week before
50% fee for cancelling with 48 hours or less notice
100% fee for cancelling with 24 hours or less notice
The cancellation fee will need to be paid immediately to keep O/our relationship in good standing and for Me to be able to hold your deposit for 60 days and apply it to O/our rescheduled time. The cancellation fee is separate from a deposit.
How far in advance do I need to book with you?
That will depend upon what type of session you're seeking. If you'd like the full dungeon experience you'll need to book 48 hours minimum in advance, the more advance notice the better. If you don't need the dungeon experience I have a private space to meet, those sessions will need a minimum of 24 hours advance notice. All session arrangements including screening and deposit must be made at least 24 hours in advance. I manage My emails between 9am and 5pm, so all arrangements including deposit must be completed by 5pm if you wish to see Me the following day.
Do you offer same day sessions?
As you can see I have a very particular screening method for meeting in person. For this reason I do not meet new clients same day, ever. If by chance I have time in My day to accommodate same day it is only offered to pre-screened or returning clients with at minimum 3 hours notice.
Same Day for Existing Clients Only!
Expedited appointment fee + $1000 on top of rate to clear My schedule and see you.
Do you see clients before 9am or after 9pm?
I do not prefer to meet before My posted time frame. However, if your session request gets My interest then I just might make an exception for an additional fee on top of the session rate.​
Before 9:00am + $500
After 9:15pm + $500
What should I expect during my session?
Once you've been screened and I have received the deposit to secure your time slot, I will then send you a detailed email of instructions and directions to your session. The day before I will confirm your session day and time and give you My number to reach Me the day of. Please arrive on time - not early or late - On Time. If you arrive early you'll have to wait and that could be awkward for you. If you're late it will run into your session time. When you arrive W/we will sit down and go over My protocols and confirm your session interests before starting the scene. Afterwards, I'll provide aftercare, a shower then send you back into the world.
Do you offer outcalls?
I can come to you for certain situations, with an additional fee depending upon distance. Feel free to inquire to see if your space qualifies for Me to visit.
Outcall fee starts at +$100 for San Diego County
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Do you tour?
At this time I do not tour. You can sign up for My monthly newsletter to be updated when I do desire to go on tour. Be sure to add your city and state to the newsletter so that I have an idea of which areas I might create a tour around.
Do you travel?
Yes! I love to travel and offer Fly Me to you packages more details can be found on the sessions page. If you're interested in traveling together to immerse yourself into a FLR you may inquire about different locations and destinations I'd like to travel to with you.
I want to be Your slave, how do I become one?
To become a personal slave of Mine is a choice I weigh heavily based on your interactions and dedication to Me. You'll first need to book either an in-person session if you're local to San Diego or book an online session if you're outside San Diego County. This is to see if W/we are compatible to agree to a slave contract. Once W/we built rapport and I invite you to apply for a position then you'll receive the password to the slave application. More details will be discussed after I've reviewed your application. Do NOT ask Me for the password without first meeting the other requirements. Not everyone will be able to call themselves My slave, I am very particular. You can see the slave opportunities I currently want filled here.
Do you switch?
No, I will not switch. I'm strictly dominant. However if you'd like a duo in which W/we have a professional companion serving with U/us in a submissive role, I have a few friends I trust to join U/us. Inquire for more information about this.
What are Your hard limits?
I do not offer Roman Showers. or FTT
Absolutely no penetrative or sex acts will be performed on Me of any kind, nor will I be doing any thing that ends in the word “job”.
I do not offer or imply any sexual services or any illegal activities.
I will not session with anyone who is under the influence of drugs, alcohol or any illegal substances.
Do you offer virtual domme sessions?
Yes, I do. I have a wide variety of online and virtual domme sessions listed below. View My Online page for all options.
Etiquette
Advanced booking is appreciated and will be given priority scheduling. I prefer to be contacted by email. Kindly approach Me with professionalism and decorum. Explicit messages will be discarded and W/we will no longer communicate.
My considerations for My time and My screening requirements are both non-negotiable. If you aren’t comfortable with My rates or screening methods I ask you to save both of O/our time and contact a different dominatrix with whom you are more compatible.
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Take the time to read each of the main pages of this site: Sessions, Online, Serve, Slave, Link and FAQ. They should answer about 99.9% of any questions you may have. Be sure to familiarize yourself with My deposit and cancellation policies, please and thank you! I don't have a page dedicated to only a gallery, enjoy finding new pictures on every page.
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What happens with U/us privately will remain between U/us and I can assure you that you will not be disappointed with O/our time spent together!
The donation for O/our arrangement should be in an envelope and left in clear view for Me to see upon My arrival. It would be an uncomfortable faux pas to make Me ask for it.
Upon arrival, kindly produce your ID for My inspection. This sets the tone for trust and allows Me to relax with ease and enjoy O/our time together.
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My preferred method of payment for My time is cash. However, I'm able to take credit card with a 10% additional fee through a particular site that once you've been screened and ready to send the deposit, I will inform you of. Or 20% additional fee through one of the adult sites I'm on. OnlyFans, ManyVids, SextPanther or IWantClips. Please let Me know in advance if you will be using this method so I can give you the correct adjusted total payment.
There is nothing better than a well groomed sub. I provide a variety of hygiene products as well as a hot, luxurious shower to ensure you are ready for O/our meeting.
If you would like to extend O/our time together, please compensate accordingly. I do not enjoy having to encourage your departure.
No gratuities are ever expected, but are always appreciated! If you would like to surprise Me with a gift then please feel free to ask or get inspiration from My wishlist below!
Wishlist
One of the greatest ways to become apart of My loyal marvellites is by showing devotion and respect with a gift. If you are looking to get noticed sending Me a gift is an excellent way to make a lasting impression. Money tributes are the preferred method, whether that is a cash drop off or an online tribute. You can send tributes via My Preferred Gift List, SextPanther, OnlyFans, ManyVids and IWantClips. Please leave all memos on payments and gift cards neutral and discreet or blank. *Never mention wanting to meet in person or allude to in person activities at all. Thank you!*
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Devote yourself to Me and support My lifestyle, every send takes you one step closer to becoming one of My marvellites. Preferred Gift List
More of a physical gift giver? Look at this list and send Me something I'll enjoy.
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Another exceptional way to serve Me is to send Me an e-gift card. I will accept gift cards sent to My email ValerieMarvelle@gmail.com. Here's some of My favorite stores:
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I am 5'9 with measurements 36 - 33 - 44. I prefer to try on clothes and shoes as My curvy figure and feet tend to fit into different sizes designer to designer. If you'd like to take Me shopping inquire! Minimum shopping budget $1000.
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